We humans interact with external entities and respond accordingly. If we want to interact, we need entities. So we cannot be truly lonely at any point of living. We will analyze some situations we might feel lonely.
Material or physical or existential loneliness:
We are social animals. Advent of remote communication technologies allowed us to move apart. So it’s hard to prove to our senses that somebody exists for us. We need interpersonal communication. That’s why we have pets, grow plants, have watches etc. We can improve this by having ‘Good mornings, Thank yous ’ with random people we meet everyday. That will make our senses feel comfortable with reality or existence. But the catch is we cannot have thought level interaction with them.
This is also a side effect of the technology. Because we are far apart we cannot share our thought process completely and hence we might feel lonely. This usually happens between parents and children. They are inseparable but still they might have understanding gap because of distance. The solution would be to clear the gap whenever we interact inperson.
Thought loneliness might happen with friends or colleagues also. We like to be surrounded by people with similar interests. But the problem with this is, people come with baggages attached, which might not be needed or unwanted to us. So we might not find a person with all interests similar and we might feel lonely. The solution would be to wait and find a person with similar interests or take whatever is needed or matching from the people surrounding us and ignore the unwanted baggages.
Above are common for majority. Following will happen once we move up the professional ladder.
Intellectual or creative loneliness:
Once we move up the professional or academic ladder, it’s hard for us to find people with similar taste in subjects or creative fields, because it may be rare or the knowledge needed is deep. This is when remote communication actually solves the problem instead of creating it. It enables us to reach places which cannot be reached physically and share the common interest and grow collectively. It increases the number of people we interact and hence increases the chance of finding a person.This is where the loneliness problem stops for many. If we are still not able to find a person with similar interest in this 7 billion population , either we are not trying enough or we are lying to ourselves.
These are faced by leaders or researchers. Because they are the ones who lead in the race it’s hard to find a person who can match. If we lead by inspiring rather than by controlling, naturally the people who follow us, like our ideas and hence we might not feel lonely in our path. This loneliness may be one of the reasons why people are afraid to lead.
Sometimes it is necessary to go against the majority to accomplish our principles. This situation is rare because usually majority won’t do bad intentionally and we might be in wrong perceptio. If still we are right, at this situation the only company for us is our principles.
The easiest way to come out of loneliness is to attach ourselves with some interests or some ideas. Because it is dependent on our inner self or mind rather than on some unreliable external entity.
If you still believe that you are lonely then think about God’s situation once.